In basketball, the 6th man is a player who is not a starter but comes off the bench much more often then others. Well the 6th man in my case means something totally different. If you read “My Daddy’s Wife” this is part two of that story. If not, you probably should.
When I found out through Ancestry.com that my dad had a wife, who was not my momma, I of course had lots of questions. The first time that I video-chatted with my stepmom as I like to call her, I had tons and tons of questions. Like, “Hey sooooooooo where you meet my daddy at?” Ummm they met at church camp when they were 17. I silently laughed, because my daddy did not ever attend church while I was under his roof. Next question….”Sooooo how old was ya’ll when ya’ll got married?” He was 20, she was 19. “Did he chase you, like he chased my momma?” Why yes, yes he did. That was a little disappointing, cause from all the stories I was told, my momma was his everything.
Ya’ll the most important question that I had was of course…
“Did ya’ll have any kids?”
The answer was hesitantly NO!!! First of all, I did not believe her! Second of all, some things she said about my daddy didn’t add up! As in, she told her grandbaby, that my daddy was her grandpa!!!!!!!
Insert the 6th Man!! I have 4 other siblings, and I needed to know if I had 5! Let me explain what led me to believe that her son, is my older brother. Remember that photo album I talked about? Yep, he was in there! I thought it was my dad’s brother, because they looked so much alike! Secondly, I facebook stalked him too!! Crazy I know, but I needed answers. When I tell you, that he looks just like my daddy, I mean he looks just like my daddy! They say the eyes are the windows to the soul, (hopefully I got that right). People they got thee same eyes, lips and everything else.
Now listen, I respect my “stepmomma” and would never want to invade her privacy or call her out on things that may not be true! But in my heart of hearts, I truly feel that he is my daddy’s son! She told me that he took care of her son like he was his, but I believe its because he was his. My daddy also took care of my older brothers, who were not his. That just speaks to the man he was.
So what happened to their relationship? My daddy loved to skate and that was his life. He left my stepmomma and went to Los Angeles, became a DJ at a skating rink and met my momma. For those of you wondering, yes he and my stepmomma are divorced! I came after the divorce, but was probably in the making while they were still married, lets just be honest!
How I overcame:
I would love to say that I have overcome this situation, but the truth of the matter is…I haven’t! But what I am doing is keeping that Ancestry.com account active, in hopes that one day he too will take a DNA test! If I am wrong, then I am wrong but somehow I doubt it!